# Claire Rumore > Claire Rumore, the Sex Coach for Empaths, HSPs and Energetic Sensitives ## Posts - [Creating Rituals of Connection: How Subtle Sexuals Honor Intimacy](https://clairerumore.com/creating-rituals-of-connection-how-subtle-sexuals-honor-intimacy/): In the world of subtle sexuality, intimacy is more than a physical experience; it’s a celebration and expression of presence, intention, and deep emotional and energetic connection. For subtle sexuals, rituals of connection offer a way to honor this unique experience of intimacy, transforming everyday moments into sacred, shared practices. - [The Warmth Within: Tending the Embers of Subtle Intimacy](https://clairerumore.com/the-warmth-within-tending-the-embers-of-subtle-intimacy/): A November Reflection for Subtle Sexuals As the days grow shorter and the air grows sharper, we’re invited inward—toward blankets, candlelight, and the inner rooms of ourselves we sometimes neglect in the heat of summer. November is not loud with desire. It doesn’t call us to chase. It calls us to tend. For those who resonate with subtle sexuality, this season mirrors our inner landscape: quiet, complex, and alive in ways that aren’t always visible. The subtle sexual doesn’t burn with fast fire. We glow—slowly, steadily, sometimes imperceptibly. Our intimacy isn’t always expressed in action, but in presence. In resonance. In warmth. This blog is a love letter to that warmth. And to the kind of intimacy that asks not to be rushed. - [The Erotic Mystery of Fall: A Subtle Sexual Opportunity To Soften into the Unknown](https://clairerumore.com/the-erotic-mystery-of-fall-a-subtle-sexual-opportunity-to-soften-into-the-unknown/): As autumn settles in, a subtle shift begins—outside and within. The heat of summer gives way to a slower burn. Trees begin their release, light becomes slanted and ambered, and even our breath seems to move differently in cooler air. It’s a season of transition, of in-betweens, of not-quite-knowing. For subtle sexuals—those who are nourished by gentle intimacy, energy attunement, and emotional resonance—October offers a powerful invitation: to lean into mystery, ambiguity, and the beauty of softening without resolution. - [Exploring Energy and Breath: How to Use Tantra in Subtle Sexuality](https://clairerumore.com/exploring-energy-and-breath-how-to-use-tantra-in-subtle-sexuality/): Tantra often evokes images of heightened physical intimacy and spiritual awakening, but at its core, it’s about the intentional use of energy, breath, and presence to foster deeper connection and intimacy. For subtle sexuals, whose experiences are defined by gentle, slow-moving connection, tantra offers practices that align beautifully with these values, focusing on the flow of energy rather than on specific physical acts. Through tantric techniques, partners can explore new dimensions of intimacy, where sensuality is heightened, connection is deepened, and the erotic experience is prolonged without rushing toward a climax. - [Boundaries and Consent in Subtle Sexuality](https://clairerumore.com/boundaries-and-consent-in-subtle-sexuality-how-to-create-safe-empowering-spaces/): In the world of subtle sexuality, where gentle gestures and quiet connection hold powerful significance, boundaries and consent become the foundation for safe and empowering experiences. Boundaries and consent aren’t just necessary formalities—they are essential elements that allow both partners to express their needs and desires openly, building trust and fostering an environment where true intimacy can flourish. - [Subtle Sexuality, Consent, and the Wheel of Consent](https://clairerumore.com/subtle-sexuality-consent-and-the-wheel-of-consent/): In the realm of subtle sexuality, consent is not just a requirement—it’s a pathway to trust, intimacy, and mutual empowerment. The journey of consent is one of active, respectful engagement with our own needs and desires as well as those of our partners. This journey is beautifully enriched by the Wheel of Consent, a framework developed by Dr. Betty Martin and taught by the School of Consent. The Wheel of Consent not only provides clarity around consent but also invites us to explore new dimensions of giving and receiving, ultimately enhancing our ability to connect in ways that are safe, intentional, and deeply fulfilling. - [Emotional Intimacy vs. Physical Intimacy: Navigating Both in Subtle Sexuality](https://clairerumore.com/emotional-intimacy-vs-physical-intimacy-navigating-both-in-subtle-sexuality/): In a world that often prioritizes physical connection as the marker of intimacy, many subtle sexuals find their deepest sense of closeness in the quiet terrain of emotional resonance. This preference doesn’t mean a lack of desire for physical intimacy, but rather that the path toward connection unfolds gradually, focusing on emotional resonance as a foundation. - [The Art of Anticipation: Building Erotic Tension in Subtle Sexuality](https://clairerumore.com/the-art-of-anticipation-building-erotic-tension-in-subtle-sexuality/): In the world of subtle sexuality, pleasure is not a race to the finish but a journey enriched by every pause, every held breath, and every lingering gaze. Here, we embrace the art of anticipation—the tantalizing space between desire and fulfillment—as a powerful force in cultivating deeper intimacy. Building on our discussions of presence and sensory engagement, anticipation adds another dimension, allowing us to savor the experience of longing without rushing toward gratification. - [Awakening Sensuality: How Spring Invites Us Into Pleasure and Connection](https://clairerumore.com/awakening-sensuality-how-spring-invites-us-into-pleasure-and-connection/): Spring is a season of sensuality—it touches every one of our senses. The scent of fresh blossoms, the warmth of the sun on our skin, the softness of a breeze—it’s nature’s way of inviting us back into our bodies, into pleasure, into deeper connection. The world is waking up, stretching toward the light, and calling us to do the same. For those who resonate with subtle sexuality, spring offers a powerful opportunity to attune to our bodies, our desires, and our connections in new ways. It’s not about rushing into action but about listening, softening, and allowing intimacy—whether with ourselves or others—to unfold naturally. - [The Language of Love: Subtle Sexuality’s Guide to Deep Connection](https://clairerumore.com/the-language-of-love-subtle-sexualitys-guide-to-deep-connection/): What if love wasn’t something to achieve or perform but something to experience and express in a deeply personal, attuned way? This is the invitation of subtle sexuality: to slow down, listen deeply, and embrace love as a “subtle” language that speaks in infinite ways through energy, touch, and presence. - [How Subtle Sexuality Supports a Powerful Start to Your New Year](https://clairerumore.com/how-subtle-sexuality-supports-a-powerful-start-to-your-new-year/): Begin Anew How Subtle Sexuality Supports a Powerful Start to Your New Year instead of chasing resolutions or striving for change, what if we embraced the new year with curiosity, presence, and a sense of attunement? A new year unfolds like a blank canvas, inviting us to pause, reflect, and realign with what truly matters to us personally and collectively. It’s a sacred moment to release the patterns and energies that no longer serve and to welcome fresh possibilities with open hearts. Yet, instead of chasing resolutions or striving for change, what if we embraced the new year with curiosity, […] - [Holistic Sexuality: A Guide By An Erotic Blueprint Coach](https://clairerumore.com/holistic-sexuality-a-guide-by-an-erotic-blueprint-coach/): Holistic Sexuality: A Guide By An Erotic Blueprint Coach Sexuality is an essential part of being human—a vibrant, dynamic force that touches every part of our lives.  But too often, our understanding of sexuality gets reduced to the mechanics: where to touch, how to move, and when. While these things matter, they’re just the surface. Beneath them lies something far more profound—a rich tapestry of emotions, connection, and self-awareness. What if exploring those deeper layers could transform your entire experience of intimacy and pleasure into something extraordinary? Spoiler: It can. Hi! I’m Claire Rumore, a certified Erotic Blueprint Coach and […] - [How to Improve Intimacy in Your Relationship: Expert Tips for Building a Deeper Connection](https://clairerumore.com/how-to-improve-intimacy-in-your-relationship-expert-tips-for-building-a-deeper-connection/): How to Improve Intimacy in Your Relationship: Expert Tips for Building a Deeper Connection Whether you’re noticing a small gap or facing long-term disconnection, there’s good news: intimacy can be nurtured, reignited, and deepened with the right approach. The heartbeat of any thriving relationship is intimacy. It’s that magical blend of connection, trust, and vulnerability that strengthens love and makes a relationship feel like home. But let’s be honest—life gets busy, distractions pile up, and intimacy can quietly take a backseat. Whether you’re noticing a small gap or facing long-term disconnection, there’s good news: intimacy can be nurtured, reignited, and […] - [How Somatic Sex Coaching Can Transform Your Journey of Intimacy and Self-Discovery](https://clairerumore.com/how-somatic-sex-coaching-can-transform-your-journey-of-intimacy-and-self-discovery/): Intimacy goes far beyond physical connection. It encompasses our emotional and spiritual bonds with ourselves and others. Yet, for many, openly communicating our authentic desires and needs can feel challenging, even elusive. This is where somatic sex coaching shines—a therapeutic approach that bridges body awareness with sexual fulfillment, guiding individuals towards deep self-discovery and relational intimacy. As a somatic sex coach, I know firsthand how vital it is to feel safe, embodied, and fully present in intimate experiences. Let’s dive into how somatic sex coaching can be a game-changer in unlocking expansive pleasure, healing from past wounds, and living with greater connection. - [Sensory Seduction: Engaging All Five Senses in Subtle Sexuality](https://clairerumore.com/sensory-seduction-engaging-all-five-senses-in-subtle-sexuality/): In subtle sexuality, intimacy is a slow, attuned dance, where presence and awareness become our partners. Building on the power of presence discussed previously, sensory engagement brings our connection to a whole new level. - [Find a Tantra Coach Near You: Discover the Healing Power of Tantra Love and Intimacy Coaching](https://clairerumore.com/find-a-tantra-coach-near-you-discover-the-healing-power-of-tantra-love-and-intimacy-coaching/): In today’s busy world, it’s easy to feel disconnected—from ourselves and from others. Daily stress and life’s demands can take a toll on our relationships, creating distance and leaving us feeling detached. Tantra coaching offers a powerful pathway to reconnect with love, healing, and fulfilling intimacy. Working with a tantra coach can be a transformative experience, guiding you toward self-discovery, reviving connection, and cultivating lasting intimacy in your relationships. If you’re curious about tantra and considering working with a tantra coach, read on to discover how tantra love and intimacy coaching can help you build meaningful, empowered relationships and experience greater self-love. - [The Power of Presence](https://clairerumore.com/the-power-of-presence-how-attunement-deepens-intimacy-in-subtle-sexuality/): How Attunement Deepens Intimacy in Subtle Sexuality An invitation to explore a gentler, more attuned approach to connection In the fast-paced world we live in, many of us seek deeper intimacy but feel a disconnect between our hearts and the experiences we encounter. This is where the concept of subtle sexuality enters, offering an invitation to explore a gentler, more attuned approach to connection. At the core of subtle sexuality is the power of presence—a gift we can offer ourselves and our partners to foster authentic, profound intimacy. But what does it mean to be present in this context? And how can we cultivate attunement in a way that enriches our intimate lives? Let’s dive into the practices and mindset shifts that deepen our attunement, amplifying subtle yet powerful experiences in our connections with others. - [What Is Subtle Sexuality?](https://clairerumore.com/whatissubtlesexuality/): An Introduction to the Slow, Sensory Dance of Intimacy In a world where bold, explicit expressions of sexuality often steal the spotlight, there’s a quieter, more nuanced form of intimacy that’s gaining recognition. We call it “subtle sexuality”. It’s a slow, sensual approach that prioritizes emotional depth, sensory exploration, and energetic connection over fast-paced, goal-oriented sexual encounters. Think of it as the art of seduction by presence, where every touch, glance, and shared breath or conversation holds the potential to build profound intimacy. But what exactly does it mean to be a “subtle sexual”? And how does this unique approach to intimacy differ from more traditional or overt forms of sexual expression? Let’s unpack the heart of subtle sexuality and explore what makes it such an empowering, nourishing experience for those who resonate with this orientation. - [9 Expert Tips to Rekindle Romance and Spice up Your Intimacy](https://clairerumore.com/9-expert-tips-to-rekindle-romance-and-spice-up-your-intimacy/): 9 Expert Tips to Rekindle Romance and Spice up Your Intimacy 1. The Importance of Maintaining Intimacy in a Relationship Intimacy is the emotional, mental, and spiritual closeness that helps one feel understood and cherished by their partner. It is more than just physical touch. Maintaining intimacy within a relationship is not just about maintaining the flame of attraction; it’s also about strengthening that strong foundation of trust, open communication, and vulnerability. As intimacy is cultivated, love and compassion blossom and help partners ride through the ups and downs encountered in any long-term relationship. And this can naturally feed the […] - [The Art of Desire: How Fear Shapes Our Needs and Keeps Us From Asking for What We Want](https://clairerumore.com/the-art-of-desire-how-fear-shapes-our-needs-and-keeps-us-from-asking-for-what-we-want/): The Art of Desire: How Fear Shapes Our Needs and Keeps Us From Asking for What We Want In over ten years of relationship coaching and sex education, I’ve heard a tremendous number of people speak about difficulty with asking for what they want. Not unusual. We live in a world that spurns and judges desire; we carry that hostility inside us, hiding from it both from ourselves and our partners. Almost all of my clients seek out my tantric coaching and tantra therapy for an exploration of their relationship with their desires. What they soon learn is that desire […] - [Unlocking the Power of Working With a Tantric Sex Coach By Claire Rumore](https://clairerumore.com/unlocking-the-power-of-working-with-a-tantric-sex-coach-by-claire-rumore/): Unlocking the Power of Working With a Tantric Sex Coach By Claire Rumore Intimacy is often left behind amidst the stressors, responsibilities, and distractions of today’s busy world. Deep, meaningful connections; richer, more complete relationships; and a fuller understanding of our own sensuality: that’s what so many of us are looking for. And that’s where a tantric sex coach, like myself, can help. When you engage Tantra sex coaching with me, I can guide you into a deeper intimacy with yourself and others. Utilizing the principles of tantra, our work together can unlock the doors to a more fulfilling, conscious, […] - [Do Drama ao Empoderamento](https://clairerumore.com/do-drama-ao-empoderamento/): Article on SSex BBox Do Drama ao Empoderamento (From Drama to Empowerment) I’m often asked to write articles for various publications, I thought I’d share links as they’re published. This one is for Ssex Bbox, it’s written in Portuguese.  Evolving the Karpman Triangle in the Workplace (Part 2) In our previous article, we explored Karpman’s Drama Triangle and how its roles—  Victim, Persecutor, and Rescuer  —play out in workplace dynamics, creating cycles of dysfunction and disempowerment. This second installment aims to guide us in changing these dynamics through a framework that is the opposite of the Drama Triangle: The  Empowerment […] - [Domination, Submission, and Co-Creation with Susan Coates and Claire Rumore​](https://clairerumore.com/domination-submission-and-co-creation-with-susan-coates-and-claire-rumore/): Watch Now! Exploring Power ~ BraveSpace w/Matthew Nelson Domination, Submission, and Co-Creation with Susan Coates and Claire Rumore Join host Matthew Nelson on the Brave Space Podcast as he dives into the complex themes of power, domination, submission, and co-creation with two remarkable guests: Susan Coates and Claire Rumore, both seasoned dancers and sex and relationship coaches. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oZkUsN5QBUY They explore how these dynamics manifest in contact improvisation, partner dancing, and their intersections with sexuality and spirituality. Engage with insightful discussions on the nuances of dominance, submission, conscious leadership, and the potential of co-creative relationships. Discover strategies for navigating erotic energy, […] - [What is the Sexual Shadow?](https://clairerumore.com/what-is-the-sexual-shadow/): What is the Sexual Shadow? Discover The Art of Nurturing and Growing Intimacy The sexual shadow of our psyche is a great mystery, rarely do we discuss it. However, it is in that shadow that we find a powerful portal to deeper intimacy and personal transformation.  The shadow is the part of ourselves that we hide, suppress, push away. These include our desires, urges, and fantasies we might be ashamed of or fear speaking about. Our unexplored, unintegrated shadow can cause emotional blockages and even intimate distance from a partner, as well as, sometimes, from oneself. But if we let […] - [How to Be an Adult in Relationships: Building Lasting Intimacy](https://clairerumore.com/how-to-be-an-adult-in-relationships-building-lasting-intimacy/): How to Be an Adult in Relationships Building Lasting Intimacy Adulthood presents many challenges to navigate when it comes to relationships, but it also offers chances for amazing growth and connection. Taking responsibility for ones wants, communicating openly, and nurturing intimacy are all part of what being an adult means to a sex and intimacy coach like me regarding relationship matters. Building intimacy is more than creating sexual closeness; it has to do with being vulnerable and seeking to understand one another.  A few of the key ways to deepen your connection with your partner are as follows: How to […] - [Benefits of Tantra Love & Intimacy Coaching for Couples](https://clairerumore.com/benefits-of-tantra-love-intimacy-coaching-for-couples/): Benefits of Tantra Love & Intimacy Coaching for Couples Find a Tantric Coach and Tantra Love & Intimacy Coaching With the hustle of modern life, many couples unfortunately find themselves disconnected from the partner they once knew and loved. Between work, daily routines, and endless responsibilities, it’s so easy for intimacy and communication to slip down the priority list. That is where coaching focused on tantra, love & intimacy comes in. As a tantric sex therapist, I have seen again and again how the practices of tantra bring couples closer together, reigniting their passion and creating a deeper bond that […] - [7 Vibrantly Effective Tips on How to Enhance Intimacy in Your Relationship](https://clairerumore.com/7-vibrantly-effective-tips-on-how-to-enhance-intimacy-in-your-relationship/): 7 Vibrantly Effective Tips on How to Enhance Intimacy in Your Relationship Discover The Art of Nurturing and Growing Intimacy Intimacy is the heart of any loving relationship, much more than just the physical closeness of two bodies. It is an emotional connection, a bond that aligns two hearts together. Whether your relationship is still in its budding stage or has survived the tides of time, nurturing and growing intimacy is essential. Here are seven essential ways to enhance intimacy in your relationship: 1. Open Communication True closeness is achieved when you both communicate with each other without inhibition or […] - [A Guide To The Erotic Blueprints for Beginners](https://clairerumore.com/a-guide-to-the-erotic-blueprints-for-beginners/): Dive into the world of Erotic Blueprints, a revolutionary approach to understanding desire and intimacy​ - [Consent](https://clairerumore.com/consent/): Consent is a big topic, and interestingly, one that has never received sufficient air time in the mainstream media or in the sex education of the past. So, what exactly is consent? - [Divine Masculine](https://clairerumore.com/divine-masculine/): The Gift of the Divine Masculine Find a Tantric Coach and Tantra Love & Intimacy Coaching In the sacred dance of Shakti and Shiva, we find the universe in embrace—where creation and dissolution are one, where energy and consciousness merge. This union is not merely a meeting of forces, but a profound communion that reveals the essence of all life: that in the heart of duality lies a unity beyond form, a harmony that sings the song of the cosmos itself. Contemplation As Ritual Every year, close to the beginning of spring in the northern hemisphere, the Hindu festival of […] ## Pages - [Home New](https://clairerumore.com/home-new/): Intimacy Coaching: Transform Your Relationships let’s Connect you with your unique path to turn-on and help you discover YOUR EROTICALLY Authentic Self Expressed Self Empowered Self Wise Self Playful Self Evolved Self Confident Self Embodied Self Have you noticed that our world likes to make it seem that there’s a one-size-fits-all sexual expression that we’re all supposed to enjoy?  But that’s clearly not true! Hi, I’m Claire Rumore! I’m an erotic educator and intimacy coach With specializations in: Somatic Sexology with an emphasis on the journey of sexuality, gender, identity and aging. The Erotic Blueprints™ & Totality Tantra Therapy™ frameworks of erotic education + exploration Sex Therapy and […] - [Subtle Sexuality Team](https://clairerumore.com/subtle-sexuality-3/): ABOUT SUBTLE SEXUALITY COACHING COMMUNITY BLOG TEAM SUBTLE SEXUALITY MENU Team Subtle Sexuality Meet the creators, innovators and dreaming visioners behind Subtle Sexuality. Claire Rumore is an innovative sex-therapy trained intimacy coach, erotic educator and conscious sexuality researcher based in Oakland, Ca. Find out more at www.ClaireRumore.comAnd say hello here: Hello@ClaireRumore.com With expertise in the Erotic Blueprints, Urban Tantra, somatic sex coaching, and emotional intelligence, as well as a lifelong dancer, Claire guides individuals and couples in exploring, embracing, and expressing their multidimensional sexual, spiritual, and relational selves.  Find out more: www.ClaireRumore.com IG: @AgentClarity Lindsay Miller is a reknowned photographer, visual visionary, […] - [Subtle Sexuality Blog](https://clairerumore.com/subtle-sexuality-blog/): ABOUT SUBTLE SEXUALITY COACHING COMMUNITY BLOG TEAM SUBTLE SEXUALITY MENU BLOG Exploring Subtle sexuality Deepen your understanding of Subtle Sexuality Stay Updated Join our Subtle Sexual Community newsletter Stay connected, stay curious—discover a new ways to experience intimacy! 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Our eros is wired differently – slower, softer, more subtle.  I call these people “subtle sexuals,” and their style of erotic expression is “subtle sexuality.” Is this you? Can you relate? I offer sex, love and intimacy coaching designed specifically for subtle sexuals.  Learn more below. SUBTLE SEXUALITY is… a nuanced, slow-paced dance of intimacy, blending sensory depth, […] - [Subtle Sexuality Community](https://clairerumore.com/subtle-sexuality-2/): ABOUT SUBTLE SEXUALITY COACHING COMMUNITY BLOG TEAM SUBTLE SEXUALITY MENU Subtle Sexuality Community Subtle sexuality is the name for a sexual orientation that has been commonly but subtly in the background. And there’s never been a better time to create a community of like-minded subtle sexually oriented erotic beings.  Join our community’s whatsapp group here FOR EVENTS, ANNOUNCEMENTS & MORE WE DESIRE TO BUILD A subtle sexual COMMUNITY – LOCALLY in the SF Bay Area AND far beyond – SO THAT SUBTLE SEXUALS CAN BEGIN FINDING EACH OTHER! 🌟 JOIN US 🌟 What is SUBTLE SEXUALITY? Subtle Sexuality is a […] - [Urban Tantra](https://clairerumore.com/urban-tantra/): exploring Urban Tantra Subtle sexuality is the name for a previously unacknowledged sexual orientation that has been commonly but subtly in the background. Button SUBTLE SEXUALITY It is a nuanced, slow-paced dance of intimacy, blending sensory depth, emotional connection, and energetic awareness. It encompasses gentle, organically anticipatory exchanges that heighten emotional connection and erotic tension, producing a full-body, multi-sensory experience that transcends the conventional. This approach prioritizes emotional and intellectual depth, profound relational connections, and the ethos of ‘Namaste,’ fostering attunement, presence, and co-created experiences over goal-oriented interactions. Slow(er), subtle(r) sensual exploration – (mindful and heart-centered) Emotional and intellectual depth […] - [Blueprintify Your Life](https://clairerumore.com/blueprintify-your-life/): Blueprintify Your Life + sessions These 2 hours are dedicated to giving you a thorough introduction to the world of the Erotic Blueprints beyond the basics you already know. This is more of an interactive class than a coaching session. 2 hour Erotic Blueprint Intro Package PLUS bonuses ~ Just $500 coaching intake form Take the Erotic Blueprint Quiz Today Look at your Erotic Blueprints % breakdown and what it means Acquaint you with deeper understanding of each of the Erotic Blueprints Explain the 5 stages of Sexuality and introduce the Sexual Liberation Lattice Explore ways you can feed your (and […] - [Subtle Sexuality](https://clairerumore.com/subtle-sexuality/): ABOUT SUBTLE SEXUALITY COACHING COMMUNITY BLOG TEAM SUBTLE SEXUALITY MENU Exploring Subtle Sexuality Welcome to the world of subtle sexuality, where intimacy goes beyond the physical. Subtle sexuality is an exploration of the softer, more nuanced layers of erotic connection — where energy, emotion, and sensation blend to create deeper, more meaningful interactions. Sign up for our monthly educational newsletter here unlike traditional forms of sexuality… subtle sexuality invites you to slow down and experience connection through presence, attunement, and non-verbal communication. ⭐ Subtle sexuality is for those who crave more than touch—those who want to feel the energy between […] - [Friends and Family Specials](https://clairerumore.com/friends-and-family-specials/): Family & Friends Special Prices Just For you! Add short intro Ask Me Anything (AMA) / Tell Me Anything (TMA) Starter Session This session is 2 hours dedicated entirely to us exploring and unpacking whatever is alive for you in the realms of intimacy, sexuality, fantasy, erotic exploration, and more.  Ask Me Anything (AMA) / Tell Me Anything (TMA) Starter Session $400 (regularly $500) Are there topics you find you have very few people (or perhaps no one) to talk to about, and a personal confidant would be useful Are there themes you feel self-conscious or insecure to bring up […] - [Starter Kit](https://clairerumore.com/starter-kit/): Bondassage Practitioner Training + bonuses I’ll teach you how to create sensually alluring sessions that blend the very best of erotic massage with the more sensual side of kink! 2 Day Bondassage Practitioner Training  ~ $4295 Complete the application form now A Bondassage certification training with me includes: Professional training in the Bondassage sequences + related skill sets A copy of the copyrighted Bondassage sequence and 43-page practitioner manual A Certified Bondassage Practitioner certificate suitable for framing A Certified Bondassage Practitioner banner for your website Free advertising on the Bondassage website Bi-weekly community Zoom calls An invitation to the yearly […] - [Personalized Intimacy Coaching](https://clairerumore.com/personalized-intimacy-coaching/): Personalized Intimacy Coaching with Claire Rumore My work is for people who are CURIOUS ABOUT and even HUNGRY FOR exploring, cultivating, and fulfilling their deepest sexual selves (in or out of relationship) in a whole-bodied context (mind: body: spirit) From $200* per hour * a small number of sliding scale coaching sessions are available on a case-by-case basis. Contact me for more details. Complete your intake form here Intimacy Coaching Achieve a profound self-awareness and self-love. Integrate clarity of your personal desires, needs, wants, and preferences. Accomplish crystal clear boundaries and communication skills. Enjoy happier and more harmonious relationships. Intimacy […] - [FAQ](https://clairerumore.com/faq/): Need more? FAQ Your Intimacy Coaching and Tantra Therapy Questions Answered Which days and times are you available for sessions/intensives/retreats? My usual availability is: Regular coaching sessions: Monday-Thursday 9am-12pm (with some afternoon options available by request), Friday 9am – 6pm as available Intensives: Fridays 10am-6pm (other days, evenings and weekends by request) Retreats: Friday – Sunday 10am – 6pm How can I schedule with you? Please schedule by email, or if it’s your first booking with me, please complete the contact form. Click here for the form. Where can I find your intake form(s)? New Coaching client intake form: CLICK HERE […] - [Recommendations](https://clairerumore.com/recommendations/): Claire’s Intimacy Coaching Recommendations Here are recommended schools, modality and intimacy therapists near me​ Cancer and Intimacy Visit my sites offering education and support around intimacy, relationships, and body image for cancer patients, survivors, and the professionals who care for them. Cancer and Intimacy for patients and survivors CancerAndIntimacy.com Cancer and intimacy institute CancerAndIntimacy.Institute Cancer and intimacy’s Substack CancerAndIntimacy.substack.com/subscribe Subtle sexuality What if your sexuality lives in the realms of nuance, attunement, and subtlety? Explore Subtle Sexuality, my website dedicated to the new sexual orientation I’m researching and developing, to find out. 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I’m an erotic educator and intimacy coach specializing in the Erotic Blueprints®, subtle sexuality as a sexual orientation, and erotic empowerment for energetically sensitive + empathic folks as well as people in the midst of big life shifts. Have you noticed that our world likes to make it seem that there’s a one-size-fits-all sexual expression that we’re all supposed to enjoy. But that’s clearly not true! I’m here to help you connect with your unique path to turn-on so that your sex life […] - [Coaching for Subtle Sexuals](https://clairerumore.com/coaching-for-subtle-sexuals/): COACHING FOR SUBTLE SEXUALS I specialize in sex coaching for empaths, highly sensitive people (HSPs) and energetic erotic blueprints. I call this group SUBTLE SEXUALS and include myself in it. 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Let’s Have a Discovery Call Intro to the Erotic Blueprints with Claire Rumore + bonuses These 2 hours are dedicated to giving you a thorough introduction to the world of the Erotic Blueprints beyond the […] - [Resources](https://clairerumore.com/resources/): Intimacy Coaching Tantra Therapy Resources to Deepen Intimacy and Inspire Exploration Read Read articles I’ve written Add Read My Blog Watch Catch up on my interviews and sharings Add Binge Watch Now Best Of… My persoanl recommendations Add Explore Now - [Retreats](https://clairerumore.com/retreats/): Retreats focused on Totality Tantra Therapy Unlock Your Unique Pathways to Pleasure: Empowering HSPs, Empaths, and Energetic Blueprints Nurture your sensual spirit, and let your intimate journey begin. STAY Safe and nourishing retreat for deep exploration and transformation focused on Totality Tantra Therapy I offer bespoke retreats that provide a safe and nourishing space for deep exploration and transformation. 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Blending Intimacy Coaching with Sex Coaching For the past 15 years, my areas of personal & professional expertise include non-dual tantra (Advaita), sexual shadow integration, emotional intelligence, attachment styles, existential kink, Tantra for Healing, and what I call Conscious Hedonism – or the […] - [Workshops, Courses + Classes](https://clairerumore.com/workshops-courses-classes/): Intimacy Classes for Individuals and Couples Be part of an experience of personal growth, erotic understanding, & embodied transformative learning. Each of my events and workshops is thoughtfully designed to meet the distinctive needs of those desiring to understand their unique erotic identities.  Coming in 2025 Erotic Blueprints 101  Introduction to Your Blueprint(s) for Pleasure A Series of classes, each 2 1/2 hours,  join 1 or join them all! More details coming soon. 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