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Welcome to the world of subtle sexuality, where intimacy goes beyond the physical.

Subtle sexuality is an exploration of the softer, more nuanced layers of erotic connection — where energy, emotion, and sensation blend to create deeper, more meaningful interactions.

unlike traditional forms of sexuality...

subtle sexuality invites you to slow down and experience connection through presence, attunement, and non-verbal communication.

⭐ Subtle sexuality is for those who crave more than touch—those who want to feel the energy between themselves and another, who seek to explore the unspoken and the unseen.

⭐ This path is about awakening the senses and becoming more attuned to your own erotic self, owning the pace and cadence of intimacy you enjoy going at.

⭐ Whether you’re new to this concept or have been on a journey of self-discovery for some time, subtle sexuality offers a gateway to a profound connection with yourself and others.

Discover more by joining us for upcoming events, utilizing the resources on this site and exploring coaching work designed specifically for subtle sexuals.

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JOIN US FOR AN INTRO EVENT TO LEARN MORE

THE POWER OF SLOW, ATTUNED INTIMACY: AN INTRO TO SUBTLE SEXUALITY

🗓️ WHEN: SATURDAY NOV 23
🕰️ TIME: 6:30PM (DOORS CLOSE @ 6:45PM) to 9PM (SOCIALIZING & SNACKS TIL 9:30PM)
🏢 WHERE: COTTON MILL STUDIOS in OAKLAND, CA
💵 COST: $30 & EventBrite fee (PRE-SALE TIX ONLY; NO TICKETS AVAILABLE AT THE DOOR)
(Scholarships and special discounts available if needed. Contact us: exploresubtlesexuality@gmail.com)
🎟️ MORE DETAILS + TICKETS: CLICK HERE

Online and monthly versions of this event are in the works! Stay tuned.

What is SUBTLE SEXUALITY?

Subtle sexuality is a journey into the deeper layers of erotic experience, where connection is felt as much with the heart and mind as it is with the body. It is about exploring intimacy in ways that transcend physical touch, tuning into the energies that flow between individuals, and embracing the powerful sensations that come from emotional and energetic exchanges.

At its core, subtle sexuality invites you to become more aware of the spaces between words, the sensations beneath the skin, and the unspoken emotions that color every interaction. It’s a form of intimacy that speaks to the soul, blending mindfulness, presence, and vulnerability.

Subtle sexuality connects to various practices, including energy play, tantra, and sensual mindfulness. It’s not just about what you do with your body—it’s about how you can expand your awareness and use all of your senses to experience eroticism in new and profound ways.

Take Our Quiz

Curious about how subtle sexuality fits into your intimate life? Take our interactive quiz to discover what role subtle sexuality plays in your relationships. Whether you’re completely new to this concept or already exploring its nuances, this quiz will offer insights and guide you toward deeper understanding.

the origins of subtle sexuality:

“Subtle sexuality” is a concept that intimacy coach and erotic educator Claire Rumore began developing with the help of her friend and colleague, Lindsay Miller, in the spring of 2023 while Claire was healing from an illness that (thankfully only temporarily) eliminated her sex drive. As her sexualness returned, she recognized that her sensual nature was now markedly more subtle, slower, and fed powerfully by intellectual and emotional connecting alongside presence, anticipation, attunement and longing.

Subtle sexuality as a concept is a “work in progress”. There is no universal definition yet. We are eager to explore and expand this concept in community with others who resonate with it so we can flesh out this “identity” and help subtle sexuals find like-minded and like-wired others. We’re eager to share with you what we’ve uncovered so far and hear your thoughts and ideas!

The Key Elements of Subtle Sexuality

Subtle sexuality offers many enjoyable aspects:

Emotional Connection

Subtle sexuality places great importance on the emotional bond between partners. It’s about being attuned to your partner’s feelings and creating a safe, open space for mutual vulnerability.

energy play and flow

This is the art of sensing and directing the flow of energy between partners. Energy play allows you to feel deeply connected even when physical touch is minimal or absent, creating an invisible thread of intimacy.

slower, mindful touch

Often, less is more. Subtle touch involves using light, intentional contact that heightens sensitivity and awareness. It invites a slower, more mindful engagement with the body.

sensory awareness

Practicing subtle sexuality involves tuning into all of your senses—sight, sound, taste, touch, and smell. The smallest sensory detail can deepen erotic experience when approached with mindfulness.

presence and attunement

Being fully present with your partner is at the heart of subtle sexuality. It’s about truly being with each other, tuning in moment by moment, without distraction or expectation.

intimate Safety

The gentle, non-aggressive nature of subtle sexuality can create a safe space for individuals who may feel overwhelmed by more overt sexual expressions, making it inclusive and adaptable to different comfort levels.

These elements combine to make subtle sexuality a deeply rewarding and enriching way to explore intimacy.

how do you relate to subtle sexuality?!

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10 principles of Subtle Sexuality

Slow and Sensual Exploration

Prioritize unhurried, deliberate intimacy over quick gratification, allowing for deeper emotional and physical connection.

Emotional and Intellectual Depth

Foster meaningful connections by engaging not just the body, but also the mind and heart, emphasizing understanding and empathy.

Multi-Sensory Experiences

Engage all senses to enhance intimacy, creating a richer and more fulfilling connection beyond mere physical sensation.

Co-Created Experiences

Cultivate mindfulness and awareness in intimate encounters, fostering deeper connection through attentive listening and understanding.

Presence and Attunement

Cultivate mindfulness and awareness in intimate encounters, fostering deeper connection through attentive listening and understanding.

Relational Connection

Prioritize building and nurturing relationships, valuing trust, respect, and communication as essential components of intimacy. Namaste Space:** Create a space of mutual respect, honoring the inherent worth and dignity of each individual involved, fostering a sense of sacredness in intimacy.

Intrinsic Experience Orientation

Focus on the journey of intimacy rather than solely on achieving specific goals or outcomes, allowing for exploration and discovery.

Consent and Boundaries

Respect boundaries and prioritize consent in all interactions, ensuring that all parties feel safe and comfortable throughout the experience.

Continuous Growth and Exploration

Embrace curiosity and openness to continually learn and evolve in the realm of subtle sexuality, recognizing that intimacy is a dynamic and ever evolving process.

Heart-Mind (Intellecto-Emotional)

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how is subtle sexuality showing up in your intimate life?

be part of our research about subtle sexuality!

We’d love your help developing subtle sexuality as a sexual orientation, fleshing out our understanding of how people experience themselves as more subtle when it comes to their sexuality and eroticism, what their needs are, and which kinds of activities, events and environments feel best.

Thank you in advance for your contributions to our research!

 

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Expand Your Erotic Awareness

Unlock a deeper connection to yourself and your partner(s) through personalized coaching in subtle sexuality. These coaching services are designed to help you expand your understanding of erotic energy, emotional intimacy, and sensual mindfulness. Whether you’re looking to reignite the spark in your relationship or embark on a solo journey of self-discovery, these personalized coaching sessions and intensives provide a safe, non-judgmental space for exploration.

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